Are You In a Toxic Relationship? Here’s How to Find Out.

What is a Toxic Relationship- Meaning, Signs, Solutions, Tips, Stages & Effects 

‘Until you let go of all the toxic people in your life you will never be able to grow into your fullest potential. Let them go so you can grow’

These lines are the second step in making your life better. The first step involves answering a very important question and that is’ Are you in a toxic relationship?’ A toxic relationship need not only be the one that you have with your partner. Any relationship can be a toxic one for that matter if it makes you feel suffocated and constricted in your present circumstances.

Such a relationship makes you feel as if you do not have a life of your own outside it and your growth, your interests, and even your free-thinking seems to be stifled at times. That is how a toxic relationship feels like, eventually but then several subtle signs present themselves as your relationship progresses. When you are smart enough to spot them early on, you can let go of the toxic people who are stunting your growth as an individual. If you can identify with any of these signs, then, it’s time for you to make your move.

What is a Toxic Relationship?- Meaning, Signs, Solutions, Tips, Stages & Effects

Here are some of the common signs or red flags that show that you are in a toxic relationship. Let’s see them.

Communicating with each other becomes a task

You can’t seem to present your side in any discussion ever which seems more like a one-sided conversation where you stay silent. The matter at hand can be quite important or even something as small as what to make for dinner.

Any efforts by you to share your feelings are met with a hostile reaction that may be verbal, emotional, and at times maybe even physical. Any kind of abuse is abuse in a toxic relationship even if it’s just verbal. This confrontation which you encounter can easily be classified as abuse too.

Your confidence takes a big hit

Have you started feeling that your personality has taken a turn for the negative because of a certain relationship in your life? You doubt yourself in everything that you do, right from deciding what to wear for a party to decide if it’s ok for you to participate in a discussion going on in the room. A healthy relationship helps you grow into something better than you already are. 

However, in a toxic relationship, you seem to be in self-doubt and start to overanalyze your personality, behavior as well as actions. Your partner in such a relationship has drilled this idea into your head that you are wrong and he or she is right every time. You don’t find it in you to defend yourself or to defy your partner even when every strand of your body is telling you that he or she is wrong.

Such is the hold of the other person on you. Do some introspection. If you were a cheerful, charming, outgoing, and full of energy person before you entered this relationship and now you are an emotionally exhausted person who seems to shy away from the company, then it is a sure shot sign of you being bogged down by a toxic relationship. How Social Media Is Affecting Your Relationship?

The green-eyed monster of jealousy is always watching over you

Jealousy is one of the most common facets of such a relationship. You cannot talk to anyone on the phone without being subjected to a barrage of questions from your partner. Your partner has become so controlling about even the minutest of details about your life that you cannot even plan a lunch date with your girlfriends or meet your friends at the bar without taking his or her approval.

Having space to breathe and having a life of your own outside the relationship is very important. Do not mistake over obsessive behaviour for love after a point of time. It is ok for your partner to worry about you or to be in the know about your programs but not being able to make your own decisions and being spied upon is not what you signed up for.

Depression seems to be your best friend

You find yourself chugging down a drink too many of those sleeping pills have become a constant fixture on your nightstand. Despite being in a relationship if the feeling of loneliness envelopes you all day, then, probably this relationship is not the best thing that has happened to you. A healthy relationship is supposed to make you feel content and happy and not dissatisfied with your life. 10 Secrets to Making Your Girlfriend Happier Than Ever

The world tries to show you the mirror

Your friends and family are the first ones to notice the changes in you even if you cannot spot them or seem to deny them. Not everyone can be wrong about what they see the relationship is doing to you. Keep an open mind and listen to what they have to say about your partner and your relationship. Keep them close for when you decide to walk out of your toxic relationship it is they who will stand by you.

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Ajay Chavan

"Cut from a different cloth"
I believe words have the power to change the world. So, here I am, determined to change the world and leave my mark on it, one word at a time.
A writer, amateur poet, ardent dog lover, Sanskrit & Urdu enthusiast, and a seeker of Hiraeth.

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